Emotional Atyachar

“Fidelity” is the basic requirement of any relationships and discovering infidelity of any counterpart is truly painful experience, it is equally painful to explore one partner is suspecting his/her move. With technological advancements the dimension of spying the sequences has changed; books magazine and websites which are catering to or meant for specific gender (male or female) are flooded with the suggestion, queries and tips to detect the slippage.

One may think what difference does it really makes if something has to slip it will….. Networking sites has revolutionized the way we connect, share and make friends, they being the best way to reach out to family and friends. As there are merits of networking sites so are the demerits especially if you are married individual having suspecting partner and top of that you haven’t disclosed your marital status on the sites…J. I have seen Proxy profiles floating on the sites trying to lure there own counterparts and detect the slippage.

But when one is in love, the gesture shows an impression of it …...and those who are closely associated with the individual, detects the sordid fact…. Most of the cases known to me; the suspecting partner closely watches the partner moves, keeping a close watch on internet activities, behavioral changes and phone logs. How awkward the situation might be when one knows that his/her partner is suspecting and monitoring the moves, internet is flooded with the tips to catch the partner red handed and suggesting the key indicators which indicates slippages.

Television channel cashing on the emotional bonding and exploiting the relations to a newer dimension attracting people to check fidelity of their partners on a national television.

My stand on this is that Its an emotional atyachar to be on any side.

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Nuances of Super Performers

Super performer is a subjective term and varies from manager to manager, and organization have there own ways of defining super performer. Every manager wishes to have super performers in his team, but the over time the so called super performers may actually ruin the team; the team which includes performers and average performers.

A super performer often proves the rest of the team as under performer or inefficient intentionally or unintentionally where as he enjoys the “blue eyed boy” status. Managers start comparing the performance of the individuals against the super performer as they want other to take inspiration from the super performer. Super performer cashes on the managers attitude and start ill-treating the team members and develop an unimpressive response for the rest of the team.

Actually the super performer becomes a matter or envy for the rest of the team instead of taking it as an inspiration; because we being human; we have the feeling of love, hatred, jealously and we don’t like to be compared with anyone else. Manager comparing individuals with super performers breaks the spirits of the team and they start feeling that they are not getting proper attention and response from there managers.

Super performer carries certain additions, i.e. desire of appreciation, being into limelight and innovation. They constantly look for jobs, roles and opportunities which can bring them into limelight and many times they invade other team members territory depriving them with there job and to extend of losing the job. Organizations on the other hand can’t have innovation on daily basis and come up with jobs which satisfy the desires of super performer; routine jobs which are not having any appreciation are routed to the team by the super performers and thus depriving them from doing any innovative and productive work and thus resulting in conflicts of interest and workload.

There is an equal threat to the organization from super performers and under performer or performer as well. But super performer shines because there are average/good/ bad performers exist in the organization.

Super competence and incompetence both can be dangerous to the organization, but more irreversible damage is caused by super performers as compared to average performers.

Challenge called life

I like speaking to people on all the topics and happenings around, an electrician happened to visit my house for some repairs and I was talking to him regarding his family and daily affairs. He told me that he is a gold smith by profession and used to stay in Middle East along with his family and kids pursued there studies there only till the time he was there.

He further added that life is not as smooth as it appears; he left the country, empty handed because of the business losses, though the person was defeated in financial battle but never sounded as a looser, he seems to be charged up, high with positive outlook and a zeal to do things better and bigger.

He later introduced me to his son who studied in East and was working as a computer operator at a local business establishment, His skill set and work profile was something similar which were required in some of my known organization, so I asked him to meet the respective HR the next morning. During the course of interview discussion he appeared very composed and relevant to the requirement and henceforth was offered a job by that organization.

This news appeared as music to my ears; he getting selected and offered a better salary then what he was earning. But the ordeal was about to begin for this poor chap, he being not from well to do family use to come to the office by bicycle, as neither he nor his family have sufficient money to afford a private transport for him and spending on public transport proved to be a wastage of time and money.

Riding a bicycle appeared to be very uncommon. Everybody else were either driving a vehicle or using public transport, His Colleagues started making fun of this poor chap, ignoring his presence and avoided even taking to him; probably they might be having a substandard outlook for his status quo.

He use to dress reasonably well, not unlike his counterpart who use to dress in latest couture, flaunting modern gadgets, mobile phones and vehicles.But to me they appeared hollow;

Hollow individuals having hollow values and hollow ethics!!

Individuals having no respect for the person as human being, dishonor for the poor and needy stature.

Probably every one of his colleague was born with a silver spoon and have never experienced a challenge called life; on the contrary this poor chap had sailed through rough weather and the struggle made him realize the bitter truth of life. Struggle has made him a tough nut to crack and with each passing day he is growing tougher and accepting new challenges of life.

I’m doubly sure that, if any of his colleague steps up in his shoe could not survived with this level of hardships. This guy even works for a part-time steward job in evening hours to earn extra bucks; all this he does is for the betterment of himself and his family and I don’t see any harm in doing that, but his colleagues are just beyond imagination, they tease him for this job.
I was annoyed when I learnt nuisance of his colleagues and felt pity for mental Dexterity of his colleagues who were not behaving in common sense.

I wish him a very good luck from bottom of my heart.

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Borrower or a Scapegoat?

Though I’m not an economist, neither do I understand the intricacies of economics but certainly believe that somewhere Government machinery is not able to connect the missing links and not playing there cards well.

It’s nothing, except sheer failure of system that the inflation is getting out of control. Though the inflation figures declared by the government doesn’t depict the real time situation; a consumer can give better insight as to what level the cost of living has increased in the recent past.

Like an Embarrassed cat scratching the pillar central bank beating the bush of Repo rate and reverse repo rate. Every time there is a spurt in inflation the only measure central bank finds; is to conveniently increase the benchmark rates thus pushing the borrowers in huffy puffy. I’m sure that except tempering the benchmark rates there might be other ways and means to control the inflation which the governing body should explore.

It has been nine such occasions when the central bank has increased the benchmark rates and on most of such occasions the financial institutions has passed on the hike to there customers. India being a developing country; boast on high number of young professionals, entrepreneurs and consumers, and as the population is young, the consumers is having more number of debts as compared to cash. With each such rise the debt liability of the customer increases whereas the return on deposits remains practically same after deducting the taxes on interest component.

I’ve came across many such cases wherein persons talking home loan at the start of financial year 2008, today have the same debt liability even after paying the EMI for three full years. Thanks to the increasing lending rate, borrowers are becoming scapegoat and paying the cost of economic growth and inefficiencies of government machinery to tackle inflation.

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