Trail of ego

I along with few of my colleagues happened to visit a top rated hotel in a city as we were expecting some guest and we had planned for a meeting post lunch. We just gathered in the lobby and were planning the next course of action when a strange incident occurred.

I saw a person approaching us; well dressed and presentable, dragging his travel trolley towards the exit. The hotel being a top rated; and such hotel boasts on big lobbies; there was enough space and the person could have easily managed himself towards the exit.

Reluctant enough was the person; he desired to make his own way and wanted to push us aside, He didn;t like us standing on his way. “Excuse Me” uttered this gentleman. The words coated with Proud, superiority complex, sense of achievement and excellence. We made a pass for the gentleman. This made me think that should the gentleman at all behave like this and what is the reason behind his cloud 9 status.

Few of the reason which I could quickly count on; he drives a vehicle which rarely any of us can drive, he can drive it at an unimaginable speed, the vehicle that he drives itself is very costly and possessing such vehicle is a dream for common man and reality only for few big corporate, his vehicle has hardly any obstacles during the journey and most of the time it is smooth ride. He has a liberty to push his vehicle run to its full capacity during the journey.

But my understanding goes a little bit different, he can’t drive a car in congested traffic better because he drives his vehicle in no traffic area and on top of that all the traffic management is someone else responsibility. He can’t keep patience in Road traffic congestion because he is not habitual of facing that. He can’t drive a car better because he is habitual of driving the vehicle a few kilometers and rest of the time it is auto driven.

No matter how fast and how high he flies but in reality he needs some ground to ground. Professionally one can achieve new highs but until n unless he has surroundings clouds of ego, superiority and proud he could not shine.

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Let them be Kids !!

If you are happy parent and have a school going ward; even to a kindergarten then you must have been a part of parent’s teachers meet. I don’t know what to take away from such meeting, but as per books it is mandatory to attend such meetings. Of course there are some funny memories which you can recall later and rejoice.

I remember my good school days; the term “Parent’s teacher meet” was an alien term; it’s not that my parents never visited my school, but on the contrary they were called very often; for all bad reason. The time were not fixed for such meeting as the teachers and principal couldn’t predict the time as to when I will do some mischief or bash somebody.

Anyways now as I’m a parent and time has changed, I’m now an actor of the term parent’s teacher meet. I generally don’t like to attend the meeting for many reason the first being that I’m confident on the school where my ward is enrolled, I’m confident that they are taking good care of my kid and imparting good education and learning to him. Also I don’t want to interfere in the schooling machinery as I’ve a faith on the system. My only concern is that my kids should not exceed the limits of mischief, they should not bash-up there classmates and should behave properly.

But in spite of my trust and belief the school is very rigid and they want the parents to visit the meetings and listen to them. Some parents enjoy this interaction but I really don’t.

Some of the interesting observation of such meets are, Parents suggesting to increase the school timings as they wanted there kids to be stationed in the school for as long as possible. There excuse being that if they reach home early they watch TV, so it’s better to be in school. I didn’t understand whose is the parent here “school” or the “biological parent”, who has more responsibility to align there time and activities.

On the contrary, we as adults always wanted lesser working hours to have some social activities aligned. We seldom think about the pain of waking up early in the morning, getting ready for the school with rucksack of books when the morning still has the shade of darkness.

I wanted my kids to be at home early as I expect them to take a quick nap and rush to extra curricular activities.

I wonder about those parents who were suggesting teachers for more home assignments as kids finish off there job early and play later on. They don’t want there kids to play too much.

I on the contrary wanted no home assignments from school as I believe that all the schooling must be done in school and home should be left for relations, bonding, taking rest, entertainment, cultural and extracurricular activities.

Parents even sharing eating, sleeping habits of there wards and what not, I though that it is all irrelevant to the context given and parents are expecting too much from schools, they should allow kids to be kids and they should understand there responsibilities and expectations of a child.

Let them be Kids.. Let them know how to exercise his/her rights and let education be a stepping stone to achieve the goals.

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Welter - Shelter

Working on the deadline for my house hunt which was really very short (11^th oct-2010 to 13^th oct-2010 ), I overstretched myself in terms of efforts to honor the deadline and finally I was able to zero in one residential complex. I communicated with the developer, paid them the token by 12^th Night itself and the deal was struck though the other formalities pertaining to loan, house selection/ allocation and other legal procedure was pending. As it was already getting late for the day, so we thought of exploring them by tomorrow.

The very next day i.e. 13^th I reached the site to work on the pending issue, but was surprised to learn that they were reluctant to offer me the price which they had committed hardly 5 days back. I was taken aback as I have already paid them the token amount and they were not willing to honor their own commitment, I communicated with their head office even but all in vain.

I was worried about the token as they may even confiscate the entire token money or might deduct some statutory charges as I was filing for the return of the deposit. But thank God the HO people were genuine enough to refund my entire money without any ifs and but.

If it would have been other case I would have fight for the honor of words but unfortunately I couldn’t; specially in this case. As the real estate developers are really big & influential people and one should not really mess around with those people. I don’t know whether I missed my deadline or honored it but the fact is that I own a house for a day virtually but didn’t own it really.

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Day Dream.

I’m a dreamer…!!! A day dreamer….!!! Like to create air castle….!!!

I not only make air castle but I also work hard to give them a reality. On 11^th Oct-2010 I aspire to own a house and deadline being 13^th Oct which coincidently is my B’day. To decide and zero in for purchasing a house is generally very time consuming and people take months and sometimes years to decide and zero in on something.

But the deadline I have set for myself is 2 working days i.e. 48 hours. Today till 12^th Oct at this point of time I haven’t seen any of the houses, direction, locality not have I finalized on the budgets and neither checked the balance of my so called saving account which internally I admit is only the expense account.

I’m staying in the most happening city of India since last eight year but I never thought of purchasing a house, I never thought of purchasing one because I though that life is like a journey and one need to keep on moving. I didn’t want to struck myself and commit to; I didn’t wanted to have any financial liability and obligation, I wanted to be free, free like a bird who can open the full span of wings and can fly at his wish.

There was one more intuition which supported my decision; that being that the moment I think of settling out here; I will meet with some radical changes. I was bit worried about those changes as intuition didn’t helped me in understanding that whether the changes will in my control or beyond my control. If the changes are beyond my control then I will be in an utter mess; financial obligation will turn me down to rubbles.

I don’t know whether by tomorrow I will be able to zero in on something or not because the deadline is really very short term. But it is sure that I’m looking for some radical changes and I wanted those changes to be in controlled manner.

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Drive!! So that you are not driven

I don’t want to buy car, I want to buy cars….!!!

I don’t want to buy house, I want to buy houses…!! Hey wait…!!! Don’t interpret it to the houses we live in. I’m talking about the business houses.

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe. We know how to schedule, plan and execute and many of us successfully do so, but what happens to the dream, that navigates us like a North-star. Dream is nothing but a vision in corporate statements - the final goal of your entity. “There is nothing like a dream to create a future" Says Victor Hugo

With the above set of ambitions I’m clear with myself that I want to become Giant, "big" is not the right word here. But things are not falling in the proper place and leading to frustration. I remember that once an astrologer has told me that I can’t make everything happen because of my planetary positions do not support my “hyper” ambitions.

This incident refreshed the memories of a great ruler; who wanted to rule the world and the palmist denying any such possibility. He just took out his knife and draws a new line in his palm which according to the palmist was mandatory to rule the world.

I didn’t intend to do because I never intend to rule the world; neither have I known which lines I’m going to draw. But I could very well understand the frustration which the ruler might be having, because if the ambitions are high and if one is not able to make them happen then depression and dejection are bound to happen.

Until and unless one spreads the wings, one will not have an idea of how far he can fly. Ambitions are essential for everyone; without ambitions life will be boring, monotonous and uninteresting in the world. Here living is not enough; one need to achieve something to make one’s life interesting and worthy. Ambition is the driving force in life. Ambition drives some mad, but it helps some to achieve their goals.

So the ideology being "Drive!! So that you are not driven".